an open relationship
no questions asked,i dont like my job
it doesn't make me happy
so i applied for a couple more and got a call back for an interview
the guy"future manager if i took the job" is a very handsome slick thirty something year old guy,i have to say he is good at what he does(work wise at least) but then in the middle of the conversation he says"oh,u have a mole on ur left cheek"
me: blank exprssion
him: that's a sign of intelligence and creativity
me: (thinking) since when?
him: oh,u dont know that?
all the time am thinking,what the hell does that have to do with the freakin job?
so anyway,i come back for a second interview knowing that he wont be my direct manager and while we are chatting i discover he has been to school with my best friend,naturally he picks up the phone,dials her number and says all the blaaaaaaaaaaahhhhhhh about me being there and that the three of us should go out for coffee today,my best friends agrees (to be fair,she didnt know that i hated the guy's guts)
so she arrives at the office in 30 min.and we go to a nearby cafe
- i know am blabbering but hang in there-
we talk about crap till i gather the nerves to ask him "are u single or seeing someone?"
and he says "in an open relationship"
me:"ha?"
him: "u know,i have a girlfriend and i love her in a way and she too but we are not exclusive,i see other people and so she is but she doesnt have the right to sleep around u know,that part is for me"
ok ok ok,i tried my best not to slap him until i get to the bottom of this
so my best friend asks: we dont understand,r u in a relationship or not?
him: we are.it's just not a typical relationship.
me: so u sleep with whomever u want and she cant. but she "sees" other people if she wants,u mean she dates others?
him: if u choose to put it that way.but it's deeper than that.
me: i dont see the depth
the end
after him leaving (thank god)
i ask my best friend about that statement and she says she hears about it all the time,am sure it's all my fault coz where i live in mars there are no relationships,just red earth
i believe that relationships are all about two things :responsiblites and rights
if u do one u get the other,in an "open relationship" the guy gets all the rights of a boyfriend without any of the responsiblities,for a guy,that's perfection,no more jealousy or seriousness or when are u meeting my parents or am pmsing and need attention or i have a problem at work and need u,just a plain booty call relationship if u may
my only problem is: call it what u will,just dont call it a relationship: please
btw,i didnt take the job?: guess why ???
it doesn't make me happy
so i applied for a couple more and got a call back for an interview
the guy"future manager if i took the job" is a very handsome slick thirty something year old guy,i have to say he is good at what he does(work wise at least) but then in the middle of the conversation he says"oh,u have a mole on ur left cheek"
me: blank exprssion
him: that's a sign of intelligence and creativity
me: (thinking) since when?
him: oh,u dont know that?
all the time am thinking,what the hell does that have to do with the freakin job?
so anyway,i come back for a second interview knowing that he wont be my direct manager and while we are chatting i discover he has been to school with my best friend,naturally he picks up the phone,dials her number and says all the blaaaaaaaaaaahhhhhhh about me being there and that the three of us should go out for coffee today,my best friends agrees (to be fair,she didnt know that i hated the guy's guts)
so she arrives at the office in 30 min.and we go to a nearby cafe
- i know am blabbering but hang in there-
we talk about crap till i gather the nerves to ask him "are u single or seeing someone?"
and he says "in an open relationship"
me:"ha?"
him: "u know,i have a girlfriend and i love her in a way and she too but we are not exclusive,i see other people and so she is but she doesnt have the right to sleep around u know,that part is for me"
ok ok ok,i tried my best not to slap him until i get to the bottom of this
so my best friend asks: we dont understand,r u in a relationship or not?
him: we are.it's just not a typical relationship.
me: so u sleep with whomever u want and she cant. but she "sees" other people if she wants,u mean she dates others?
him: if u choose to put it that way.but it's deeper than that.
me: i dont see the depth
the end
after him leaving (thank god)
i ask my best friend about that statement and she says she hears about it all the time,am sure it's all my fault coz where i live in mars there are no relationships,just red earth
i believe that relationships are all about two things :responsiblites and rights
if u do one u get the other,in an "open relationship" the guy gets all the rights of a boyfriend without any of the responsiblities,for a guy,that's perfection,no more jealousy or seriousness or when are u meeting my parents or am pmsing and need attention or i have a problem at work and need u,just a plain booty call relationship if u may
my only problem is: call it what u will,just dont call it a relationship: please
btw,i didnt take the job?: guess why ???
posted by strawberry | 8:18 AM
5 Comments:
yeah ... it is fashionable now ... open relationship up my ...!!!!!
Good work strawberry:)
Dear Strawberry,
Actually you make me feel as a mersian now. You are living in Egypt I guess? and this rude question about the mole on a cheek was in an interview?? and a man meets a lady for 1st time answers his question about his marital status saying he sleeps with someone but still has the right to be with others ......, what a hill? where do we live? even in North of Europ a man will be much shy to speak about his extra-commitment relations with someone he hardly knows... I am amazed with the forms our society is taking
I wouldn't jump to conclusions about "open relationships" in general based on one jerk. In this particular case I agree with you, but it's perfectly reasonable to have an open relationship in which both the man and woman love each other and are committed to that relationship, but both see other people on the side as well. As long as the rights and responsibilities are equally balanced (none of this "I can sleep around but you can't" crap), then there's nothing wrong with an open relationship.
look eyad , men love to talk about relationships , i dunno y but this is how we were created , plus a jerk like that who thinks he's livin the best life will even want to talk about it more , when it comes to me , i don't believe there's such a thing as "an open relationship",for goodness sake it's a relationship , it's commitment . i don't even believe in girlfriends and boyfriends having sex , not bcz it's a sin , we are all sinners , but i think we choose our partner cz we love him/her , not for how they r good @ sex love is sumthin spiritual not physical !!
tc
being in an open relationship is ok if the rules goes with both the male and the female. period.
commitment freaks me out so its perfect for me.
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