a different kind of bully

In most jurisdictions the crime of rape is defined to occur when sexual intercourse takes place (or is attempted) without valid consent of one of the parties involved.
The lack of valid consent does not necessarily mean that the victim explicitly refused to give consent. Generally, consent is considered invalid if it is obtained from someone who is:
-Under any kind of duress (force, violence, or emotional blackmail, etc.)
-Judgementally impaired or incapacitated by alcohol or drugs (legal or otherwise)
-Mentally impaired whether by illness or developmental disability
-Below the age of consent defined in that jurisdiction

"After being raped it is common for the victim to experience intense, and sometimes unpredictable, emotions, and they may find it hard to deal with their memories of the event. Victims can be severely traumatized by the assault and may have difficulty functioning as well as they had been used to prior to the assault, with disruption of concentration, sleeping patterns and eating habits, for example. They may feel jumpy or be on edge. In the month(s) immediately following the assault these problems may be severe and very upsetting and may prevent the victim from revealing their ordeal to friends or family, or seeking police or medical assistance.

This may result in Acute Stress Disorder. Symptoms of this are:
-feeling numb and detached, like being in a daze or a dream, or feeling that the world is strange and unreal
-difficulty remembering important parts of the assault
-reliving the assault through repeated thoughts, memories, or nightmares
-avoidance of things -places, thoughts, feelings- that remind the victim of the assault
-anxiety or increased arousal (difficulty sleeping, concentrating, etc.)
-avoidance of social life or place of rape.

most rape therapists believe that to some people,being groped or flashed is almost an equivelant to rape especially to young girls.

did u know that if u force a kiss on ur gf when she doesnt want to be kissed is almost an equivelant for her to sexual harrasment and rape.actually any thing that is forced for whatever reason is rape. sleeping with ur wife or gf when she says she is not in the mood is rape.please rethink ur actions and feelings,u do not want to be a sexual bully?do u?

busy but bored

i just started a new job,not perfect but at least i know i can be happy here till i find something better,the the thing is ..........................am bored.

I'm very bored,i work 12 hours a day,5 days a week,i started learning spanish again,am back to dieting and the gym and am writing my very first novel (among many more i hope) ,i also started this habit of going out for one hour with friends every day,but still.I'm very very very bored.it's like this other person is doing all these things while i hang out and watch,

do u think am crazy?or just overwhelmed by change?

i really do not know,am even too busy to be happy,i only have to things to feel these days,tiredness and boredom.

did you know?

did you know moving on with heartbreak gets easier with time?

did you know that your real friends will appreciate just spending time with you even if sometimes u r the nastiest bitch(works both make and female ways) in history?

did you know that if a man or a woman likes another person so much they will sacrifice time and energy and money just to be with them?

did you know it's easier to make friends when u r not trying to?

did you know that u r not crazy if sometimes u just want to be left alone?

did u know that being independant is tough but it will make u a better person when u do need to depend on another human being?

did u know that liking someone without looking to marry them is perfectly fine and even more entertaining coz u dont have to impress them?

did u know that men do appreicate a girl who is not a princess and who will speak her mind ?

did you know that in 22 years of existance i learned that i do not need anyone to feel perfect,that I am not perfect and that i can be happy in the company of myself but also be glad when am in the company of good friends and family coz that is the only thing that will keep me going when things are tough?

lesson of the day : be grateful for god,good fortune,family,friends and being yourself.those things will always be yours if u choose to honour and respect them.

THINGS THAT CHANGE

alot of things have changed recently in my life
Can u grow up in 4 months more than what u did in 22 years?
let's go through my changes one by one

1-i dumped the boyfriend whom i featured in a couple of entries before (no wait,i didn't tell u?) yeah,christmas party at my sister's place,turns out he's "emotionally drifted" on me with some low class chick. no biggie,we dropped out like nobody's business after one week of agony,i survived:-)

2- i met what I thought was this so-called soul mate (i know i know,stupid,ha?)

now this is a weird story,ready?


ooooooooooook,,it's a blogger,and though i wouldnt meet a man through the world of the internet,i exchanged emails with him and we established a very nice friendship that then transfered to the phone then we met outside,i have to admit i truly liked him and we started "courting" romantically.then little things started to sound weird and am a journalist so if i dont hear the truth or get answers when i need them i go insane.

u know when u hear things but they never seem to add up? that was the issue,my instincts told me to get out so my only way of doing so was to say that i didnt think we were a perfect match and guess what ?

hell broke loose,we had gone out for 45 days,and he had lied about everything,am talking age,family,where he had graduated,where he livesEVERYTHING
WELL,am not exactly a material girl......but?
i expect honesty,i dont have expectaions about rich,tall,handsome men. i grew out of that 3 years ago,i dont mind if i date a begger as long as he admits it.

now,what would u think off a person who lies about these things?

i know i know, SERIOUS ISSUES

since am not a therapist i just kept my peace and kept my mouth shut,until now.

he writes that what pissed me off was that he lied to me and that i got fooled for the first time where i thought i knew everyone.ooooooooooook

this is the difference between a stable person and a person in dire need for an a therapist and hopefull one who can perscribe drugs

YES.i admit it,i dont love him coz u do not love a person u never trusted,the only reason i was pissed is that i saw this coming and i didnt trust my guts, so there.........................

enough about this thing,will come back tomorrow i promise,as long as i get some work done

tomorrow's topic: WORK AND THE EGYPTIAN GIRL(am being silly today)